It’s no surprise that a baby’s need will always come first. Despite being so small, they demand an immense amount of attention. New parents, especially moms suffer the most.
The itty-bitty little piece of you will need constant care and supervision. And before you know can even take a break, the entire day will have gone by.
Many moms sacrifice more than just sleep just to make sure the baby is comfortable – even personal hygiene.
It’s smart to plan things ahead, make a to-do list, or create a routine which you can follow with ease. That being said, here are some easy and manageable time-saving hacks for a new mom.
Your newborn is #1 in your list of priorities right now and it will stay that way for a while. You are caring for someone who cannot take care of themselves yet. It’s not possible for you to be prioritizing something else when all your time and attention is being spent after your baby.
It can be difficult to say no. You might feel like you are upsetting the people in your life, but your comes first. There will be time enough for you to go out again, meet up with friends, and do everything else that you used to do. Friends and family will understand. They are always going to be there for you.
But for now, your baby demands all your time and attention. Learn to say no to everything else until your baby has gotten used to a certain pattern.
Let’s face it, with a newborn in the house you clearly do not have time for a bath. What you can do is take the bath together with your baby. This way you are saving time and water! Even though this sounds difficult to accomplish: Have your partner be near you when you are getting out of the tub with your baby. Your partner can take the baby from you while you finish up as well.
Another brilliant time-saving hack is to use paper plates. The first few months of caring for a newborn will be hectic. You will have no time to do the dishes while the baby is crying. Stock up on paper plates. Easy to throw them away after use. It saves a lot of time.
Doing your laundry is a boring chore. Even more so when you find yourself doing them twice a day. Wash all the clothes, including your baby’s, together. This will not only save your precious time but will also conserve your energy.
You know how everyone is always saying to call them if you need any help? Well, now’s the time to call them. Ask for help. It’s tough being a mom and you can’t possibly do everything by yourself.
Ask your partner to help out with chores around the house. Break down responsibilities and any other tasks to the people offering to help you. If your partner can cook ask them to take on the task. Even if your partner can’t cook, ask a friend or a relative to help with the cooking for a while.
You need supplies, your baby needs diapers and a lot more. Just simply assign grocery shopping duties to your partner.
There’s no shame in asking for help. Every bit of effort counts – big or small. This will give you a lot of breathing room and more time to focus on your newborn.
It’s best to get into the habit of organizing. Being organized can go a long way for a new mom. Make a list of things you need to do the night before. This way you can take a look at the list and start your day accordingly.
Take the help of technology! Mark doctor’s appointments according to their time and date. Your Smartphone will alert you an hour before the appointment.
It’s easy to forget where you misplaced your keys. Maybe you wrote something important down while you were on the phone but now you can’t find the piece of paper. Place a bowl or hang some hooks near the door to place your keys after you get home. Make sure they’re visible and easy to find. Use post-it notes when you’re writing something important down.
Getting organized is a brilliant time hack that saves you from a lot of stress. It’s best to know what is important and what is not. Then divide them up into a list and follow it. Since your baby is your first priority now make a list of to-do things related to the baby.
Try to accomplish at least two things from the list every day. Soon you will fall into a habit of making lists and following them through.
This is probably the most important part of the whole article. You need time for yourself, period. Having a baby and getting used to all the hassle can put a strain on your already exhausted body. There’s no need to stress out so much.
Give yourself at least 20 minutes a day to relax. Take care of yourself. It doesn’t have to be something major. Small things like taking a nap, reading a book or a magazine, listening to some music, watching random TV or just take a nice hot shower. The goal is to make time for yourself.
Do something that you like every day and you’ll feel more energized and happy. Self-care is key to surviving these first few months of having a baby.
It can be hard, being a new mom. There’s an endless list of possibilities that things might go wrong. But if you plan things ahead, you can be prepared to tackle anything.
Implementing even one of these hacks will result in a fresh and positive mindset. Remember to always ask for help and take the time to look after yourself!
This article has been contributed by Stepheny on behalf of FeedFond. She is a mother of two and loves to share hacks that will make your life easier. Check out more of her work at FeedFond.com
Dogs have a mindset of a two and half year old toddler. The techniques used for both work on them cognitively and emotionally.
When you are training your dog, you will learn to handle children better. It will prepare you for parenting beforehand. The dog training tips and tricks that are perfect for dogs are equally useful for raising well-behaved children.
Here are some dog training tricks that effectively help us raise a well-behaved child.
Children develop the power of self-control and self-regulation at age 3 to 5. The process continues till age 10. Three parts of the brain are involved in self-control:
Dogs have the left side of their brain involved in self-control. Dogs adopt impulsive behaviors such as destructive chewing, excessive biting, etc when their left frontal cortex is over-used. It’s similar in children when they demonstrate a stubborn behavior during the waiting period at a shop/bakery/restaurant.
Dog trainers learn to differentiate between an impulsive and attention-seeking behavior. When the dog deliberately misbehaves, the dog trainer or dog owner stops paying attention. When it’s an impulsive behavior, they try to find the cause and its solution. Trainers understand if the pooch is suffering from separation anxiety (an instinctual behavior) and give him a treat-dispensing puzzle for long-term playtime.
In children, the instinctual behaviors are a display of possessiveness and impatience. They can be tackled best if they are engaged in an acceptable behavior. If they are ignored for long, they may indulge in an inappropriate behavior. We often ignore the child until she gets in trouble when we have no other option than to punish them.
Dogs and children are famous for imitating adults. They understand and follow their body language more than words. They have a short-term attention span, so an adult’s focus is required to guide them properly towards a task.
Research has shown how dogs can read and imitate our emotions quite perfectly. They are well-tuned well to our emotions and actions. In times of grief, you will never find your dog laughing at you.
Babies and toddlers can only be attracted by physical cues. You can grab their attention using social cues.
If your dog loves you, he will imitate you to get in tune with you. They are pack animals that are trained to follow the leader. Dog-owners who attend doga classes must have seen their pooch trying to imitate them.
Children are no different! They find their role models in you. They pick up your habits, your behavior, your way of dressing, your attitude and so on. They find their ideal in you. Their rights and wrongs are defined by what you do and avoid.
According to an experiment conducted at Yale University in the Canine Cognition Center, dogs imitate human behavior but skip on the irrelevant steps, but toddlers mimic the adult behavior without questioning it. Toddlers will follow through the irrelevant steps without judging its need for the outcomes.
The results show that parents have an upper hand on their toddlers. Parents can mold child behavior just by bringing a change in their own habits.
Positive training rejects old disciplining techniques that are based on inculcating fear and imposing punishments on dogs. It approves positive and negative reinforcement. Positive reinforcement is about praising the dog or giving him treats for the good work done. All it requires is a consistency of rewards. There should be no delays. Negative reinforcement is preventing the dog from bad behavior by creating negative consequences. Consistency is required here too.
Research has shown that children can easily grasp the process of positive reinforcement. They will repeat the behavior that ends in rewards and positive outcomes. Negative reinforcement, alternatively, is difficult for the children to grasp at an early age. It can be employed at a later stage of life as it requires complicated reasoning.
Using positive reinforcement, if you can set the routine of your dog to brush teeth daily, go out for walk, and so on; you can set perfect routines of your child.
Positive reinforcement doesn’t mean allowing everything to the dogs and toddlers. Boundaries and limitations need to be set for both of them. The rules and restrictions vary from personality to personality of the dog or child. If the rules are broken, a calm and controlled behavior is essential.
The authority figure has to handle the situation in a calm manner. Raising the voice or losing temper weakens the position of the adult handling the dog or child. It encourages reactive behavior of the pooch or child. They might revolt and disobey the orders. That’s why it’s important to stay patient and consistent.
James is a part-time dog-trainer and dog behavior consultant with years of experience in dog training and the man behind LabradorTrainingHQ.com. He is interested in finding out fun ways to handle dog behaviors, specifically, Labradors to help dog-owners enjoy their companions at all times.
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Considering the challenges of 21st Century, our kids are vulnerable to develop a less emotionally intelligent and pessimistic personality. They may suffer from loneliness, stress, and depression due to a lack of love, kindness, and attention from their parents.
Pets provide psychological, physical, and social benefits to our children. Dogs, specifically, can impact our children positively and help them develop an optimistic outlook on life. We all know how much loyal dogs are, here are some ways dogs demonstrate their loyalty to our children:
Various studies concluded that pets can lower the chances of depression in pet-owners. They help introvert and shy ones to develop a positive and optimistic vision of life.
When our children take the responsibility of caring for the pet, they benefit from their presence. Dogs, especially, teach children to live in the moment and love unconditionally. They teach stressed, shy or introverted children to change their lives in a positive way. Children having pets are found to be more social, outspoken and happy.
Karen Winegar, animal expert, in her interview to New York Times mentioned that the bond of human and animal works at emotional level rather than on intellectual level. This emotional bond nurtures us in unexpected ways.
Less-popular kids have low self-esteem and self-confidence. They seek social acceptance inside and outside the home. ‘Special Children’ specifically face the challenges of being rejected. Pets show acceptance to everyone they come across.
Pets do not judge, criticize, or pass comments. They love your kids unconditionally in spite of their mischievous behavior. They do not leave out children with physical or mental abnormalities.
A published research in Journal of Personality and Social Psychology revealed that dog owners have higher self-esteem, sense of belongingness and purposefulness in their lives than non-dog-owners.
Such confidence and self-esteem make a child impact their surroundings in a positive way. They see the world in a positive light because they attract praise and appreciation from everyone due to their confidence.
Pets become a reason to strengthen the family bonds. All the family members take turns to care for the pet and fulfill his daily needs.
Dogs require play time and long walks to burn the extra calories. During playtime, most families enjoy a great time together with their dogs. Such bonding helps to sharpen the communication and social skills in children. Who doesn’t know how important social skills are for a successful life.
Children learn to win social acclaim and acceptance. It helps them develop optimism towards people and life.
Children facing reading and learning disabilities can seek the assistance of a pet. They may read or teach their dog. The uncritical friend helps the child sharpen his learning skills. Moreover, he provides the child a companionship to share all his secrets. Such companionship boosts a child’s self-confidence.
Moreover, the self-confidence of children increases when they do little stuff for the dog such as providing food and water and fulfilling their daily grooming needs. They feel a sense of accomplishment at the end of every task. Their parent’s appreciation gives them a confidence boost.
Dogs help the kids attract people due to their cuteness. They bring an opportunity for the children to develop a social circle of their own.
Introvert and shy children can learn to communicate better by being expressive to their pets in isolation. They learn the difference between harsh and gentle actions. They learn to be more empathetic and compassionate in their daily dealings with others. It helps the child develop good social relationships with everyone.
Moreover, good words and actions send out positive vibes which equal greater social acceptance and social circles.
Children having pets have low-stress level and blood pressure. The physical touch with a pet leads to a release of feel-good hormones, the endorphins, and oxytocin. According to CDC (Center for Disease Control and Prevention), children who have dogs usually have a low stress or anxiety level.
Moreover, pets provide emotional support to the child in times of grief. They prevent the child from loneliness and rejection.
Such positive experiences in childhood help children develop compassionate, kind, and beautiful pictures of the world. They learn to manage their emotions in a better way. They see the world as the best place to live.
Children who learn the basic skills of success: emotional and social management at an early age are bound to live a happier and successful life.
Children who are not rejected or neglected in their childhood by their busy parents/guardians/caretakers learn to give time, love and care to others in their lives.
Moreover, a happy and strong family bonding helps the child to maintain his relationships in a similar manner. All in all, dogs play a significant role in developing a positive outlook of a child.